Reaction Time

Reaction Time

Try the link below for a little fun. When you are done hit the back button and read about how our reacting to situations and others without thinking in a calm, rational manner can cause us all trouble. 


http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/sleep/sheep/reaction_version5.swf


There is a famous quote that has proven to be fairly accurate. "10% of life is what happens to you, 90% of life is your reaction to it". The way we react to situations and others has a profound impact on our level of happiness. Ultimately our reactions come down to a choice and the interesting thing about it is we already know one of the two outcomes. When you react in a negative manner you can expect to get it right back. We know this yet we continue. The situation escalates, emotions get elevated and before you know it a choice you made a few minutes ago has caused more trouble, pain, and hurt feelings than you bargained for.




If you could take a step back and replay or take back your initial choice and replace it with a new and improved one, you would realize that by remaining calm, rational and non-reactive you could avoid all the "drama" of reacting without thinking. Too often we become defensive when we hear or see something we do not like or do not agree with. Try to put things into perspective. Try to view others perspective. Try to remain calm and rational as you cultivate a response. Take a deep breath and repeat what you think you just heard. For example, "if I heard you correctly..."or "what I hear you saying is..." This will help you understand what you have heard and clarify for the other person that you were actually listening and actually understand their point of view.



We can avoid many conflicts by reacting differently. If a common reaction has been causing you problems, try and change it up. Remember if nothing changes nothing changes.